Unmarried Women Can’t File For Domestic Abuse

Last week, NC passed a marriage amendment that defines marriage solely as a union between a man and a woman.  I’m against that.  NC already had a law in place against same sex marriages.  This was just to solidify the law, and close loop holes.

What you may not know, is that within the amendment was a much scarier topic.  Domestic violence. With this amendment now in place, you can no longer file for domestic abuse if you are not married.  It doesn’t matter if you are a couple, living together.  If you are not married, you can not seek protection of any kind based on domestic abuse laws.

It took a long time, and a lot of hard work, to get domestic abuse laws on record.  These should not be based on whether or not you are married.  If you are a couple, living together or not, they should apply.  I feel that NC has taken a step back in time with this amendment.  This amendment should not have passed.



Lawmaker Says Girl Scouts Promotes Homosexuality and Abortion

Indiana lawmaker Bob Morris says. He has labeled the Girls Scouts of America a radical organization that promotes homosexuality and abortion and is out to destroy American values. – LATimes

When I heard this on the news, I didn’t know if I wanted to laugh or get mad.  I was a Girl Scout leader for 3 years.  I have taken a break from it this year, because my daughter wanted to do cheerleading.  I only became a Girl Scout leader because of my daughter.

One thing that strongly stands out in my mind, from when I did the leader training, is that we were not to discuss sensitive issues with the girls in the troop.  If they were to bring them up, we were to refer them to their parents.  It was not our place to take a stance on issues like homosexuality, abortion, religion, or other sensitive subjects.  These were up to the parents.  We were to encourage our girls to respect each other, respect their differences, and respect their beliefs.

Morris said he made his discoveries after talking to some knowledgeable constituents and conducting “a small amount of Web-based research.” He said the discussion and research led to his conclusions that the Girl Scouts encourage sexual activity, are a front for Planned Parenthood, and that scouts are encouraged to look up to role models who endorse feminist, lesbian and Communist agendas. – LATimes

In y experience, Girl Scouts is for promoting strong girls.  They strive to teach them to be leaders.  They teach independent thinking.  I would like to see the research Morris has supporting his views of the Girl Scouts.  I think that he went out on the internet to look for something negative about the Girl Scouts, and used that to discredit them.  I also believe that if you were to go online and look for something negative about anything, you will find it.  It doesn’t mean that it is true.

Morris needs to do more research, in my opinion.

Free Big Red Safety Box For Wanderers

Is your child a wanderer?  If you have an autistic child, you know what this means.  If you don’t, it means that your child “escapes” or “elopes” a lot.  This is a big deal for parents with an ASD child.  My child is a wanderer, and we’ve had a lot of scary moments because of it.

Autism Speaks, the world’s leading autism science and advocacy organization, today announced that it has awarded $30,000 in funding to the National Autism Association (NAA) to provide 1,000 Big Red Safety Boxes to families of individuals with autism.

The Big Red Safety Box is a valuable tool for caregivers as a means to educate, raise awareness and share simple tools that can assist in preventing, and responding to, wandering-related incidents in the autism community. The Big Red Safety Box contains educational materials, such as a caregiver checklist, a Family Wandering Emergency Plan, a sample IEP letter that can be used to implement prevention and response protocols in school, along with safety products, including two GE Door Alarms, one Who’s Shoe ID, and five laminated adhesive stop sign visual prompts for doors and windows. Big Red Safety Boxes are provided free-of-charge to families with a loved one at risk of wandering. While supplies last, they can be requested at this link:http://www.nationalautismassociation.org/bigredsafetybox.htm.

Supplies are limited.

Whitney Houston Has Died

Whitney Houston has been reported dead by the Associated Press.  48 year old singer and actress is dead, but the where and why are not yet known.

I was a big fan of her music, but not her.  I have always believed that she lived her life too far on the edge.  She has been reported as using drugs, and for being high-strung and temperamental.  Even though I didn’t approve of her lifestyle, I did enjoy her music.  I am saddened that she has passed away.  Before, there was always a chance that she could change.  I had hopes that she would revive her music career.  Now, it is over.

New Definition of Autism Will Do Harm

An expert panel, appointed by the American Psychiatric Association, is working on a new definition for autism.  They are working to narrow the criteria for autism, in order to lower the rate of autism spectrum disorders diagnosis.  They are working towards excluding high functioning autism (PDD-NOS and Asperger’s) from the spectrum.

Under the current criteria, a person can qualify for the diagnosis by exhibiting 6 or more of 12 behaviors; under the proposed definition, the person would have to exhibit 3 deficits in social interaction and communication and at least 2 repetitive behaviors, a much narrower menu. – NYTimes

If these proposed changes were to happen, many children and adults will lose their much needed supports.  In my opinion, this would be disastrous. It takes a lot of paperwork, time, and money on the part of parents, to get a diagnosis for their child.  Then, it takes a lot of time and paperwork to get the services needed.

If these proposed changes were to happen, our children could lose their health coverage, therapy, community supports, and even their secure classroom.  Without the diagnosis, children with an IEP based on an autism diagnosis, could lose the protection of an IEP.  They would be completely lost in the public school settings.  It’s hard enough for our children to get their needs met in school, but it would be impossible without an IEP.

I think that the government is scared about the rise in Autism rates.  I believe that they don’t want to spend the time and money to help families with autism, and to find out what causes Autism, so they are using the American Psychiatric Association to lower the Autism rates.  This is horrible!  Changing the definition of autism will not help.  It will cause a lot more harm to the number of children and adults that are currently diagnosed with autism, as well as those that will no longer be diagnosed (but need to in order to receive the services needed to help them) with autism.

Leave the definition of Autism alone.  Instead, find out what causes it and how to help those who are diagnosed with autism.

A NJ Disabled Child Denied A Transplant

The parents of a 3-year-old New Jersey girl say she’s being denied a kidney transplant because of her mental disabilities, but experts caution the situation may be much more complex. – WRAL

Rivera wrote that a doctor, whom she did not name, told her and her husband, Joe Rivera, that Amelia wouldn’t be eligible for a transplant because of her quality of life and her mental condition.

“I put my hand up. ‘Stop talking for a minute. Did you just say that Amelia shouldn’t have the transplant done because she is mentally retarded. I am confused. Did you really just say that?'” she wrote. “I begin to shake. My whole body trembles and he begins to tell me how she will never be able to get on the waiting list because she is mentally retarded.” – MSNBC

After reading these articles, I looked online for Chrissy Rivera’s post.  I wanted to read what happened in her words.  I found it, and it really angered me.  I’m not sure if it was the doctor’s words or the social worker’s words that upset me more. Just the knowledge that there are people out there that think this way scares me.

I understand how Chrissy feels.  She is fighting for her child’s life, and is facing a battle of bigotry.  I have had doctors that don’t understand my child.  That have said that I need to “make” him do something, or not “let” him do something.  I have never had to face this kind of battle.  With all of my son’s developmental problems and health issues, none have been life threatening.

In my opinion, a child’s mental status should not factor into a transplant.  It’s her health status that should matter.  Is she physically able to survive a transplant?  That’s all that matters.  It sounds like Chrissy is a lot like me.  She will do anything for her child.  I can understand that.  What she is going through is difficult enough, but to add to it with this kind of treatment from “professionals”?  It’s sickening.

Fort Bragg NC Soldier Opens Fire On Police

Firefighters responding to a report of smoke at the Austin Creek Apartments at about 10 p.m. were unable to get inside and called police for backup. When police arrived, he man inside fired on them. – WRAL

This occurred in Favyetteville, NC, early Saturday morning.  Two police officers and the shooter were injured.  The soldier’s name has not been released.

I was talking to my father, retired infantry soldier, about soldiers that are deployed in a combat area.  These soldiers are placed under a great deal of stress.  The longer that they are deployed, the more stressed they are.  Their humanity can be broken down to the point that they are no longer able to tell right from wrong.  They simply react to their environment.

As a civilian, our first thoughts may be that this is a bad soldier.  A rotten apple.  After talking with my father, I realize that this is not the case.  This may be a case of a good man pushed beyond his breaking point.  He could have snapped, had a complete breakdown.  Soldiers that return from a war situation can suffer from PTSD, and require treatment. As this story develops over the next few days and weeks, I’m sure his state of mind will be investigated.

Church Posts Beyonce Child Is Satan

According to TMZ, a NC church posted on it’s outdoor church sign “Beyonce Had Her Baby Satan is on Earth.”  TMZ claims in it’s article that the pastor of the church, Beulah Hill Baptist Church, said that he became aware of the sign after numerous complaints, and fixed it immediately.  The pastor has claimed that he never made that statement to TMZ, that the sign never said that, it was an internet photoshop hoax.

What do you think?  Was the sign real, or a hoax?  Either way, to me, the whole thing is in bad taste.  It’s one thing to target Beyonce, but to include an innocent baby is revolting.

NC School Officials Hazed Disabled Man

I was shocked when I heard about this.  Five school officials at Cherokee High School, in Cherokee, NC, hazed a disabled man by making him eat hot sauce.  The disabled man helps out at school sporting events.  He was forced to eat the hot sauce because he attended a sporting event that did not involve the school.

Even more shocking, is that the school officials that were involved in this incident included the school principal and vice-principal.  Also involved were basketball coaches.  They were all suspended.  No charges were filed against these men, because the police say it wasn’t a crime.

Really?  It should be a crime.  I’ve heard of hazing going on at colleges.  I don’t like them.  I think they should be illegal in all states.  It is abhorrent to me that five high school officials would do this.  I don’t know what kind of disability the victim has, physical or mental.  Even if the man had no disability, I would be shocked at this hazing incident.

I hope that all five men are fired.  They have no business working with children.  I would fear for any child of mine in a school with staff capable of doing what they did.